“The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows!” Even after being sober for over a year I have days where my motivation/drive is sub par. One of things I do when I feel down or unmotivated is watch motivational vidoes on YouTube. It gives me inspiration, and helps me get into a positive head space.
This is what works for me, but it may not work for you. Find your niche and find the new and improved you! There is strength in numbers, we can recover! Below is my goto motivational video. Check it out and start your day off with some positivity and inspiration!
What tips do you have to stay motivated?- Comment below
-Strive to become the best version of yourself!
If you are new to recovery you will probably hear a term called “90 and 90.” Which means you go to 90 meetings in 90 days. Some people ask why is this so important? I’ll explain why.
- It helps you get into a daily routine.
- You can try different meetings in different areas to find the right meeting for you.
- Networking- Going to meetings will help you meet new people in recovery.
- It increases your chances of finding a sponsor.
- You can get a commitment, which holds you accountable to make the meeting.
- Celebrate your milestones 30,60,90 days are big accomplishments, celebrate the wins.
- Going to meetings helps you understand your not alone, find people at meetings you can relate to.
- Time- You need to give your mind, body, and spirit time to readjust to your new life.
- It helped me deal with my social anxiety and other character defects.
- Talk to newcomers. Even if you’ve only been sober for 1 week you can help inspire the person with 1 day or less, pay it forward.
Some meetings are better then others. The 90 and 90 helps you find what is going to work for you. Keep an openmind, listen, and also share. Old timers will say “take the cotton ball out of your ears, and put it in your mouth.” I disagree a newcomber should listen, but also share there experience, strength, and hope.
These are the simplified 12-steps for those who struggle with a higher power.
- I admit that I have no control over my drug/alcohol use. It has caused me unacceptable consequences. I will not live like this anymore!
- There is help for me to recover, it is my responsibility to find it.
- I will accept help and advice from people who have had similar experiences.
- I will take inventory of myself. Looking for any behavior and personality that caused problems to others and I.
- I will tell someone my inventory to help the self-evaluation process.
- I will make positive changes in my life.
- Work daily to remove your shortcomings.
- Make a list of people who I negatively affected from my substance use.
- Exercise good judgement, and make amends to those people you have adversely affected.
- I will continue to work on my problems and admit mistakes when they arise.
- I will reflect on my personal growth and development.
- I will pay it forward and help others.
Gratitude- is the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness.
When my journey to recovery began I was told to get into a routine. Every morning I would wake up make my bed, pray, and then write out a gratitude list. Everyday I write down 5 things I am grateful for. The next day I will write down five new things I am grateful for, trying not to repeat from the day before. This helped me realize and appreciate the little things in life. Such as having a place to rest my head at night or being able to eat everyday. These are things I took for granted even as an adult. After living with alcoholism I now know nothing should be taken for granted. Being grateful for the little things is what helped me build my recovery foundation.
They have apps you can use to type and save your gratitude list, or you can just go old school with pen and paper. I like being able to go back and reread my gratitude lists. This helps me recognize patterns, good or bad that I might need to address.
As I sit on an airplane headed to Vegas, for work, I have so much to be grateful for. I am grateful for my health, my loving family, having food to eat, a place to stay, and a job. I am also grateful for being an addict. The disease has torn me down, but I have been able to slowly rebuild my life. That is something I never thought I’d end up saying over a year later.
If you feel like giving up, do it tomorrow, because today we can do great things, if we put our minds to it!
Notice how the last part of the definition for gratitude talks about kindness? I will speak on that in my next post.
-Strive to become the best version of yourself!
Top 5 things I did while on step one……
5. I read The Doctor’s Opinion in the Big Book, multiple times.
4. Looked up and wrote out the definitions of powerless and unmanageable.
3. I wrote out my biography to present day.
2. I got in a “recovery routine.” I would wake up every morning make my bed, read the serenity prayer, and write out a gratitude list.
1. I got a sponsor!