It’s in all of the us. We have the capability to do anything we put our minds too. It all depends on how bad do you want it? I had to adopt this mindset during my recovery. In the beginning of recovery the shame, guilt, resentments all flooded in. I used those emotions to fuel the fire to push through the pain, and because of that I haven’t had a drink in 425 days. For a hopeless drunk like me, thats profound. If i can do it, you can do it! We can do it! Be humble, be honest, and be the hardest working person in the room! Have a great week!
-Striving to become the best version of myself!
via Daily Reflections
Todays Daily Reflection hit home for me. It talks about blame. When I was in active addiction I would blame everyone and anyone, but never myself. I wasn’t the problem. Everyone else was the problem!
Recovery has taught me that I am the sole person to blame. Everything I do or say ends with me, no-one else. It took me along time to realize that I had to take ownership of my life. I know nothing changes overnight, but if you can string a few nights in a row change is possible and rewarding!
-Strive to become the best version of yourself!
If you are new to recovery you will probably hear a term called “90 and 90.” Which means you go to 90 meetings in 90 days. Some people ask why is this so important? I’ll explain why.
- It helps you get into a daily routine.
- You can try different meetings in different areas to find the right meeting for you.
- Networking- Going to meetings will help you meet new people in recovery.
- It increases your chances of finding a sponsor.
- You can get a commitment, which holds you accountable to make the meeting.
- Celebrate your milestones 30,60,90 days are big accomplishments, celebrate the wins.
- Going to meetings helps you understand your not alone, find people at meetings you can relate to.
- Time- You need to give your mind, body, and spirit time to readjust to your new life.
- It helped me deal with my social anxiety and other character defects.
- Talk to newcomers. Even if you’ve only been sober for 1 week you can help inspire the person with 1 day or less, pay it forward.
Some meetings are better then others. The 90 and 90 helps you find what is going to work for you. Keep an openmind, listen, and also share. Old timers will say “take the cotton ball out of your ears, and put it in your mouth.” I disagree a newcomber should listen, but also share there experience, strength, and hope.
Freedom from “King Alcohol”
…let us not suppose even for an instant that we are not under constraint… Our former tyrant, King Alcohol, always stands ready again to clutch us to him. Therefore, freedom from alcohol is the great “must” that has to be achieved, else we go mad or die.
As Bill Sees It, p. 134
When drinking, I lived in spiritual, emotional, and sometimes, physical confinement. I had constructed my prison with bars of self-will and self-indulgence, from which I could not escape. Occasionally dry spells that seemed to promise freedom would turn out to be little more than hopes of a reprieve. True escape required willingness to follow whatever right actions were needed to turn the lock. With that willingness and action, both the lock and the bars themselves opened for me. Continued willingness and action keep me free– in a kind of extended daily probation-that need never end.
I confined myself physically and mentally when I would drink. I’d isolate and drink alone in the dark. Every waking hour my mind would think of alcohol. Everything in my life revolved around drinking. I was delusional about my disease. Thankfully, I had a divine intervention that pushed started my recovery. Ultimately, before my intervention I wasn’t willing to face the facts, denial was my friend. Now I know my denial and unwillingness was part of the problem that kept sucking me back into alcoholism.
I use the WHO acronym as foundation for my recovery. I have to be Willing to make positive changes in my life. I have to be willing to accept reality. I also must be honest with myself and others. One lie can snowball into a mountain! I find being brutally honest in all my fairs to be a stress reliever. I must also be Open-minded. Everybody’s road to recovery is different. What works for me may not work for you. Keeping an open mind helped me take in other people’s honest advice and opinions. I then would do research and through trial and error I was able to find my recovery sweet spot.
If you are struggling and do not know where to start, start with WHO. Everyday make it a point to become more Willing, Honest, and Open-minded. There are a plethora of roads to the top start carving your journey today!
– Strive to become the best version of yourself!